Specific Strategies: Consistent Messages
Prior to your daughter's first year at CSM, she’ll be asked to complete an online teaching exercise called the College Alcohol Profile (CAP).
This will provide her with some feedback about the choices, risks, and consequences of drinking. It will also help to correct misperceptions about the drinking norm itself at CSM. Part of this training will be some specific suggestions about how to avoid high-risk drinking.
We want you to know what they’ll be taught here, so you can add to or reinforce those strategies.
Ways to Help Your Friends
- Be the designated driver.
- Be a role model for your friends.
- Know and respond to alcohol poisoning.
- Never leave an intoxicated person alone.
- Know your limits, stick to them, and stay in control.
- Determine how many drinks to have and stop at your number.
- Eat right before and while drinking.
- Learn from past mistakes and make adjustments.
- Drink on or two an hour. Shots hit in about 20 minutes.
- Check if your medicine interacts badly with alcohol.
- Don’t drink if you have a strong family history of alcoholism.
- Drink for quality, not quantity (a 6-pack of imported or micro beer).
- Be aware of your situation. If you feel unsafe, leave.
- Watch your drinks while being made and after. Never leave your drink alone, even if you only have a soft drink.
Here are some strategies you may use to talk to your daughters about how they can manage situations to keep them safe. It’s best to choose a couple of the strategies, based on what you know about your daughters.
Make sure your daughters have a plan of some activities that could be used in place of drinking.
Students often report holding a drink but not actually drinking it. This deception helps others to leave them alone and not pressure them to drink something.
Turn Pressure Around
This strategy involves questioning the other person about pressure. Effective phrases include:
- “Why are you trying to hard to make me do something I don’t want to do?”
- “But I told you, no, I’m not going to do that. Don’t you listen?” An other way to say this is: “Stop pressuring me. Your’e going to drive me crazy!”
- “What kind of friend are you to keep pressuring me? Back off.”
Have your daughters talk with a friend before the party, and share a plan to stay safe. Ask that friend to help make sure they both stick to the plan.
Leave the Scene
Suggest your daughters have a plan for how to get home if there’s no one at the party who has not been drinking or if they’re in a situation they feel is unsafe.
Most underage drinking occurs at parties, and in most cases, your daughters know that alcohol will be at the party. They need to have a plan for how they’re going to deal with the situation so they’ll stay safe.
If your daughters typically converse with a lot of humor, advise them to use it to think of things to say that can get them out of a bad situation. Encourage them to make the humorous statement their own, so it’s something they feel confident in.